Ignorance is not always bliss.
I'm a little depressed right now as I write this, but I'll be fine. I've just kinda realized how some relationships have problems due to two things: communication and mentality. Two people who are unwilling or cannot communcate with each other will obviously have problems, I think that's a shared belief that other people have. Mentality on the other hand, is a bit vague, but I could not think of a more specific word to describe what I'm thinking of. What I mean by mentality, is the view of the direction of the relationship and the view of the other person. If one person doesn't try to do anything for the relationship, how can that relationship last? If the two people have conflicting views on where the relationship is headed, can that relationship necessarily last? What about this, what if one person does not believe there is a problem when there really is one? How much must one partner endure another's ignorance/unruliness/stubbornness, before they decide it's too much?
We live in a world where people idealize their perfect partners and how they should play specific roles. Sometimes people think they can shape another person into their dream partner. Other people think that they can dominate the relationship enough that things will always work out their way. Then there are some people who don't want any business, but to be taken care of. I think our world has really messed with the image of two people coming together in a true relationship. In the US, where the divorce rate is almost 50% or something, the mentality (I'm using this word too loosely now) that you can always replace something you dont like, has really hurt aspects of our life that it shouldn't even come close to. Pleasure seekers selfishly seek their own enjoyment and satisfaction, but disregard other people. I really think it's sad how selfish people can be sometimes. But I'm on another tangent now... back to the original point.
I feel a problem our society has today, is that it does not (always) treasure good relationships. The relationships I'm talking about here, are the ones we have with good friends, our teachers, religious heads, co-workers, etc but especially FAMILY. I think that some people focus far too much on finding the right partner for a relationship that they neglect how they act with everyone else around them. Let me clarify. I feel that if a person cannot engage with various people, and especially their family on a warm and loving level, they cannot maintain a good "relationship" (the one w/ a partner). Family is an important piece, but not everything. Some people selectively pick who they want to see when they want to see them. Is the world that perfect? Course not. If that was the case, I wouldn't want to see my professors during finals week. I think a person needs to practice the capacity to interact with different people and know how to get along. This is why team work is stressed so much in every job. I feel like this is so obvious, however it also seems to me, such a significant problem when it comes to developing good relationships. (Damnit it's 130am and I'm tired but I must type) Now, to all those people who think writing/English comp/etc is such a waste of time (i'm one of those people), these classes EXIST FOR A REASON. You weren't born with the ability to eloquently speak to everyone and solve every social problem. This kind of stuff takes PRACTICE. If you are able to communicate well, I promise you will excel in life. This does not mean you can be ignorant every single time a problem or dilemma arises. Ok, I'm done with that.
To finish up the segway about a person's mentality... I hope that people can be more open and selfless when interacting with others. An open heart and mind can change how your eyes view a person dramatically. Never refuse to change unless the other person is just a complete imbecile. (I'm kidding) Case in point.... Practice those communication skills b/c they are invaluable; and also try to keep an open mind and heart when engaging different people. (I say these things with a grain of salt. The things I have talked about are idealistic, but in order to express an idea, it must be presented in the most straightforward form. Like all lessons in life, how you apply this or manipulate it to fit ur character, determines your success. So be wary.)
I grow weary of this life. Good night.
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